Guild Wars 2 Wiki:Don't be a dick
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(copied directly from [1], and edited slightly)
Don't be a dick. If people abided by this, we wouldn't need any other policies about behavior. This is a corollary of ignore all rules, and most other rules are special cases of this one.
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[edit] Fundamentals
"Don't be a dick" is the fundamental rule of all social spaces. Every other policy for getting along is a special case of it. It is a bad idea to be one. So don't do it.
If a significant number of reasonable people suggest, whether bluntly or politely, that you are being a dick, the odds are good that you are not entirely in the right.
Being right about an issue does not mean you're not being a dick! Dicks can be right — but they're still dicks; if there's something in what they say that is worth hearing, it goes unheard, because no one likes listening to dicks. It doesn't matter how right they are.
[edit] Definition
A "dick" is a person who treats others with a condescending demeanor and usually expounds on their experience and skill in such a way as to try to make others seem inferior or not educated in the topic of any given discussion. Even though they may be correct, they present their argument by trying to make others feel less of a person or as if they are a "know-it-all". These people often use terms such as "scrub" or "noob" when addressing others or engaging in debate.
[edit] Coping with being labeled a dick
If you've been labeled as a dick, especially if you have been told this by several people in a particular community, it might be wise to consider the possibility that it is true. If you suspect that you may be a dick, the first step is to become aware of it. Ask yourself what behavior might be causing this perception. Try changing your behavior and your mode of presentation. In particular, identify the harsh words in your communications and replace them with softer ones.
Honestly examine your motivations. Are you here to contribute and make the project good? Or is your goal really to find fault, get your views across, or be the one in control? Perhaps secretly inside you even enjoy the thrill of a little confrontation. This may not make you a bad person, but to everyone who is busily trying to build something great, you become an impediment. People get frustrated, rancor ensues, the atmosphere changes, and the whole project suffers. Are you here to give, or to take?
If appropriate, publicly apologize to anyone to whom you may have been a dick. It's okay; this won't make you seem weak. On the contrary, people will take notice of your willingness to cooperate and will almost always meet your efforts with increased respect.
Telling someone "Don't be a dick" is something of a dick-move in itself, so don't bandy the criticism about lightly.
[edit] External links
- What Makes A Fuckhead? (David R. Kendrick) ("dick" in the context of this article having originally been a euphemism for "fuckhead").
- High-testosterone people reinforced by others' anger, new study finds (University of Michigan news service)
[edit] Notes
The term "dick" in this essay is generally defined as "an abrasive and inconsiderate person".
